ENG: It's almost the end of the year which means it's time to round up my most popular posts. But first, let me talk about my journey as a blogger a bit. I still remember when I set up my blog and wrote my first post back in April. Funny to see that now I am writing a post on my most popular articles this year. I came so far in the blogging world and I plan to take the Blogosphere by storm in 2018 so watch out for me. Looking back at my first few posts not only my writing improved but my photography style and skills too. I am pretty much impressed how I finally found myself something that I love doing that I can express myself with and I hope it can become my job soon. 

HUN: Majdnem vége az évnek, ami azt jelenti,hogy itt az ideje összeszedni a legnépszerűbb bejegyzéseim. De először engedjétek meg,hogy beszéljek egy kicsit az utamról, mint blogger. Még most is tisztán emlékszem amikor elkészítettem a blogom és megírtam az első bejegyzést áprilisban. Vicces, hogy mennyire rohan az idő és most már az évvégi bejegyzésem írom a legnépszerűb cikkeimről. Nagyon sok mindent elértem rövid idő alatt a blogolásban és terveim közt szerepel, hogy 2018-ban letarolok mindent, vigyázzatok. Mindent megteszek, hogy a legsikeresebb legyek. Visszanézve az első bejegyzéseimre, nemcsak írásban/fogalmazásban javultam, de a fotók terén is ég és föld a különbség. Mondanom sem kell büszke is vagyok erre. Végre találtam egy olyan hobbit amit imádok csinálni és nem unom meg 1-2hónap után, illetve van egy kis része az interneten ahol bátran kifejezhetem magam és ahol imádok lenni. Remélem előbb utóbb főállásban is csinálhatom.

ENG: No wonder this post is the most popular one. I bet a lot of you can relate to the problems I talked about and the 25 comment left on this article shows it too.

HUN: Nem csodálom, hogy ez a legnépszerűbb bejegyzésem. Nagyon sok visszajelzés érkezett erre a bejegyzésre külföldi bloggerektől és sokan átérezték azokat a problémákat és nehézségeket, amikről írtam.

ENG: Hope you loved all of my posts as much as I loved writing them. A few more posts will be available on the blog in the next 2 days so don't forget to check it out.

HUN: Remélem minden bejegyzésem szerettétek, legalább annyira mennyire én szerettem írogatni Nektek. Ne feledjétek, a következő két napban még érkezik bejegyzés aztán pedig adunk a 2018-as évnek, rengeteg érdekes és szuper bejegyzéssel.

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I'm back on track. Hopefully, I got the pre-Christmas blues and a little writer's block. Everything's settled now though, so I hope I will keep sticking to my schedule as usual. In today's post, I wanted to show you some makeup looks but I already told you a hundred times at least, that I am not a beauty guru so after many failed attempts I thought I should just show you my favourite products.

In the past few weeks, I've been really lazy and unsuccessful when it came to my blog. I couldn't think of a single decent post and it kind of drove me crazy. I was ashamed because I couldn't produce but when I look back and see that I posted 70+ articles this year then I can be pretty much satisfied because it's not that bad. I hope to double this number next year.
 Well, moving on to today's post I would like to talk about my latest additions to my nail polish collection.

As social media is a big part of our lives we can't really overlook the huge amount of selfies posted every day. Sometimes people who look good are often categorized as dumb or unintelligent. My question is why?! Why can't someone be stylish, have a love for makeup and be intelligent at the same time?

Christmas is clearly the best time of the year. Smelling mulled wine and walking in the crisp cold air is one of my favourite activities to do. The beautiful lights at night and the never-ending rush that somehow follows everyone. So how do I not overreact Christmas? 

As December's already here(had to change the beginning of the sentence because I started to write this in November...) I thought I could share you how I get ready for the upcoming month. A new month is like a new year, a new beginning. It's all yours to get the most out of it. I always try to roughly plan the next month. Write a little to-do list and write down the things I want to achieve in that particular month.

Last year it was all about bobble hats. In every colour, everyone was wearing it and still, I am too. It's really cute however I find it kind of awkward as a 23-year-old woman. As you can see on Instagram and every social media platform there's a new addition to our headwear collection every year. Some may go out of fashion, some stay for a few years. I remember a few years ago when I was still in high-school I was all about wearing berets and it finally came back and now everyone's wearing it.

 In winter we can't really make our outfits pop in streets because we are wearing coats and jackets so it's hidden underneath them. However, you can make a difference with hats, gloves and scarves.
Some of my favourite hat trends are bobble hats, baker boy hats( absolute favourites) and now I found my long lost love for berets again.

In this post, I collected some really nice winter accessories so you don't have to search for the perfect pieces for hours.

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Hope you liked this post and hope I could show you something cool.

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What a shame to see a lot of bloggers calling out each other in hope of getting some extra likes and views. In my post a few weeks ago I told you guys I never really witnessed any negativity on my Twitter timeline... a few days after that post came out this finally changed. Unfortunately, I started to notice a "trend" developing in the past few weeks and days. I think you can tell others to change some things about themselves without being completely rude.

Under the term cheap, I'm not talking about dangerous, chemical filled fake cosmetics from eBay or Aliexpress. I'm talking cheap drugstore makeup which most of us can afford and those of you who are not beauty gurus swear by. This post is mostly about how I make my cheap palettes work in my everyday makeup routine. It's nice to own some expensive, high-end products but let's face it. A lot of women can't afford them and it doesn't mean you can't look good and you should feel left out. No. In this little post, I will give you some tips on how to get a better result with cheap products. 

In August I switched my personal Instagram to a business account. With many fears I finally did it. I read so many bad opinions on switching to a business account and how the already poor engagement went awful. So I've been experimenting and trying to get the most out of business Instagram in the past few months. Earlier this month I switched back or at the end of October, I don't really know. Anyway, I switched back to a personal account to see if the engagement will be any different.

It's that time of the year when we finally freeze our butts off. To be honest I don't mind it at all because the Christmas, festive season is by far my favourite. Having an excuse to wear glitter and shimmers all day long. Not to mention Christmas sweaters which some call ugly but I totally find them adorable and lovely. I have my very own sweaters for this season and I can't wait for the temperature to drop so I can non stop wear them. So everyone has their essential products for winter time and I do too.

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I'm sure I already told you a hundred times how much I love a great sweater and how much I love Autumn and Winter because of layering. Since my blog lacks fashion posts(which I'd like to change soon) I thought about gathering some really cool jumpers from my favourite brands like Topshop, River Island, New Look, Primark and many more. I tried to gather products that are affordable but I couldn't help but put a bit more expensive product on the list. You'll see why I couldn't leave out this gorgeous AllSaints jumper. It looks so cool.

Ever wondered how the big bloggers have made it. How they got discovered by thousands of people while you are struggling to get a few hundred each day? Nowadays it’s completely OK if you are struggling to grow. While blogging became a job a lot of people want, it became really hard to grow. Among thousands of lifestyle, fashion and beauty bloggers you’re just another fish in the sea. So how people still make it? Because I’ve seen bloggers who could turn blogging into their full-time job after a year of blogging or less. It’s possible but you have to work for it every day really hard.  You have to keep producing content for your blog and for Instagram too.
If you have the right content, now it’s time to seek those loyal followers. I often made a mistake by not targeting the right audience and it drove me crazy. Now, I think I target the right people but still I’m not always consistent. So rule number one: Be consistent whether you’re posting on Instagram, your Facebook page or an article on your blog, set up days when you post so your readers will know when to wait for a new stuff.

Finally, this year The Stranger Things craze got me as well. A bit late to the party but hey I already watched both seasons in just 3 days I guess. It’s safe to know that I already have a huge love for all things 70s, 80s and 90s so seeing Stranger Things is all about the 80s is absolutely amazing. Not to mention it’s fantastic how they could re-create the looks so it seems like a TV show exactly from that era. The hair, the clothes and the cars everything. Absolutely genuine.
So to have a little Stranger Things themed post on my blog I came up with the idea to give you some tips on how to re-create the looks or build these styles into your wardrobe. Because I’m sure the 80s will be more huge in the following months.

While I was shopping for fairy lights a week ago I was wondering if blogging is as cheap as people think. What do you think? Do you consider blogging rather expensive or cheap? I'm seriously interested in your opinion because I read a lot of blogs on this topic and a lot of them were of the same opinion which said blogging is expensive. But is it?!

Augusztusban átváltottam személyes Instagramról, üzletire. Kétségeim voltak afelől, hogy sokáig így hagyom-e vagy sem a profilom... de hálistennek kellemeset csalódtam. Nagyon sok negatív véleményt olvastam erről a funkcióról vagy profil opcióról, hiszen többen azt írták, az amúgyis béna aktivitás( vagy nem tudom,hogy fordíthatnám) még rosszabb lett. Kevesebb követő, kevesebb like miután átváltottak. Hát köszönöm, nálam pont az ellenkezője történt. Viszont a hónap elején, vagy talán október végén mégis visszakapcsoltam a személyes profilt egy pár hétre.

Last week I ordered from CultBeauty for the first time. I always wanted to try Bleach London products but I was never brave enough to go for a bold hair colour. Since they launched their makeup line I've been planning to try them. Well, I'm always afraid to order lots of things for the first time so I only went with two items. I ordered a Louder Powder and a Glitterati (which by the way I'm in love ever since). Not to mention in October there was free worldwide delivery for Bleach London products. To Hungary, the shipping took 7 days which was absolutely fast and incredible. I thought the post will bring it but instead a delivery guy brought it to my house. However, I was in Budapest when the shipment arrived so I tracked the items through a website. 

...and to be honest, at relationships too. I want to love and I want to be loved but then again, I love the perks of being single. See my problem? Most of my life I was alone, I had my family and a few friends which I can count on one hand. I was never someone who was a popular kid with lots of friends. So being alone is amazing but it can have an impact on your social and love life later. I don't even know where to start.

Sokan elgondolkodtak már, hogy a 'nagy' bloggerek vajon, hogy futottak be? Hogy fedezték fel őket több több ezren mikor Te alig tudsz napi pár száz olvasót összekaparni? Manapság egyáltalán nem könnyű bloggerként. Az utóbbi pár évben nagy népszerűségnek örvend a fiatalok körében. Több ezer, tízezer divat, életmód és szépségápolás témában bloggerkedők között, te is csak egy vagy a sok közül. De mégis vannak akik befutnak. De hogyan? Mert láttam olyan brit bloggert aki fél év után főállásban kezdte nyomni a blogolást, szóval nem lehetetlen. Nem egyszerű, de van rá esély. Mindennap keményen meg kell dolgoznod a sikerért, ha erre nem áldozol időt és energiát akkor szerintem teljesen felesleges hozzáfognod. Fél munkával nem jönnek a sikerek, nekem elhiheted.

What's the best thing about Autumn?! Colours. Lots of amazing oranges and red tones. My favourite season but I already told you this in every post I published in September and October so far. So I thought I should make a post out of my favourite eye looks for fall. Let me clarify one thing, I'm no NikkiTutorials.

If you’re familiar with my blog, then you definitely know how much I love nice and creative things. A month ago maybe, I was approached by Basic Invite and I had to accept the opportunity to talk about this company because I love holiday cards, invites and all that creative stuff. And let me tell you Basic Invite is a girl’s dream place.

If you follow me on Twitter then you perfectly know how much I love Autumn. I love how you can layer your clothes unlike in summer. When you just boil to death in a bikini.
Anyway, I thought in this post I should show you some of my favourite trends and pieces that are in shops now. 

Múlt héten a CultBeauty-ról rendeltem életemben először. Évek óta szerettem volna kipróbálni a Bleach London termékeit, de féltem a feltünő, színes hajaktól. Imádom őket, de valahogy sosem voltam elég bátor, hogy kipróbáljam. Így a Bleach London tesztelése is elmaradt. De mióta sminkekkel is foglalkoznak azóta újra felkerültek a listámra és szerettem volna megrendelni. Felkerültek a CultBeauty márkái közé, így egész októberben ingyenes kiszállítás volt a világ minden tájára. Nem volt kérdés, hogy rendelni fogok. Több dolgot kinéztem, de sajnos nem merek túl sok dolgot rendelni elsőre, hisz nem teszteltem még a termékeket. Tehát csak kettő dolgot rendeltem tőlük. Összesen 8 fontot fizettem, a szállítás ingyenes volt és futár hozta. Ami amúgy meg is lepett, mert azt hittem, hogy a posta fogja kiszállítani a küldeményt. Aztán egyik reggel kaptam az e-mailt, hogy a futár délután hozza. De így nagyon jó volt, kb 7 napba tellett amíg Angliából ideért hozzám a csomag. 
Weak. Vulnerable. Crazy. Boobs. Sex. Shopping. Some may think of these when it comes to woman. Females shouldn't be considered as weak, crazy. They should not be objectified by the opposite sex. Those who can give birth, keep the house clean and also maintain a career... Well, these individuals are anything but weak. So the question here is; what it's like to be a woman? (These are 100% my thoughts on this topic and if you feel different that's completely OK)
I read an article last week which inspired me to write this post. It was about catcalling which I hate so much I can't even describe it.

Yet it still amaze me how man think it will attract us and think it's completely acceptable. Let me tell you some wise words. It's not! Funny to think it's some kind of compliment because it is a very disgusting way to show it. I mean, come on it's 2017, soon 2018. Be kind and gentle. But catcalling is always unnecessary and rude. How would you feel if you were walking down the streets and someone would yell inappropriate words to you or whistle?! You would feel terrible and totally humiliated or at least that's how I would feel. Being a woman means you have to live with these things but it doesn't mean you have to accept it. Of course saying something back can be risky. My go-to solution is to pretend you can't hear them. I used to say something back but they would just laugh at me so it's the best this way. As I said you don't have to accept it and I hope with this post many men will see it's totally rude to do this to women.

Currently, it's raining like crazy and I thought it's the perfect time to gather my favourite movies around for a big list. Well, I'm not a huge movie lover I'm more a Tv-show girl. I wouldn't skip a Vampire Diaries episode or an exciting war in Game Of Thrones. But as everyone, I have my favourites too. Autumn is one of my favourite seasons although I'm not a huge fan of rain I love covering myself in a huge fluffy blanket, with hot chocolate while I'm watching a nice rom-com. Definitely perks of autumn.

First time doing Blogtober and I am very excited however I'm not so prepared and organized as usual. I was totally lazy and I did not prepare any posts for the first week or even for the first day. As you can see I already f-ed up the whole Blogtober thing... I mean obviously, I listed posts for the whole month but I still haven't started writing them except this one. Shame on me seriously. I love the idea of Blogtober, meaning blogging every day this month. Well as I know myself pretty well and sometimes how busy I can be, I apologise to everyone if I skip a day or two but I'll try to do my best and not miss any from now on.

A minap üldögéltem a szobámban és azon filóztam, hogy mi legyen a következő bejegyzés. Általában előre dolgozom, már ami a témákat illeti. Jobb napokon el is kezdem írni a cikket, de általában arra a napra hagyom, amikor közzéteszem. Szóval szokás szerint vagy 3 cikkbe belekezdtem, mert mindig próbálok olyan témákat kitalálni, ami az olvasókat érdekli. Aztán ennek az a vége, hogy félreteszem és olyanról írok, ami ENGEM érdekel. Amiről szívesen írok. Nem szeretem erőltetni a különböző népszerű témákat, ha arról nem szívesen írok, cska azért,hogy több olvasóm legyen. Ez az én blogom és az én véleményem kerül lejegyzésre, ahol mindig a valós véleményem írom le. Legyen az jó vagy rossz.

One day I was sitting by myself wondering what my next blog post should be. I started like 3 different posts as usual but they were never really something that I would want to write about just for fun or because that's something that interests me. I always try to think about posts that people would love to read but then I always end up writing articles that I would love to read. It's my blog and I never ever lied in an article I posted. I have my own opinion on different subjects so that's what I will share not some made up stuff.
Soo motivational speakers, authors - and everything you can think of from Instagram quote pages to I don't know what - were really popular. Maybe they still are. I read a few books. My first interaction with motivational books was with The Secret and I bet everyone read it at some point of their life. You know what, I loved The Secret. Let me tell you a story from my graduation year where I used the Secret or was it just me being extremely lucky?!

As a blogger and someone whose life revolves around fashion I always try to show my best online and IRL too. Even if I wasn't blogging I would spend a ridiculous amount of time on getting ready. 

With today's social standards looking good is crucial. But trying to show it off our perfect side is not only about looks, it's more about the financial sides and having a life that everyone should envy even if it's not real. Why social media made us fake being perfect? Why should we fake having a perfect life for complete strangers? Why should it make us happier? What if I want to take a break from being perfect? Or should I say faking perfect?!

Jelenleg 3 különböző bejegyzésen dolgozom, mégis elég nehézkesen született meg a mai. Annyi ötletem van, hogy soha nem tudom éppen melyikhez lenne igazán kedvem. Elég régóta tervezem, hogy megírom ezt a bejegyzést és hát eljött ez a nap is.
Igazság szerint nagyon nehéz volt megtalálni a stílusom, sőt még a mai napig kísérletezem különböző trendekkel és darabokkal, de most már elmondhatom, hogy van egy alap ruhatáram amit könnyű felturbózni.
Szóval a kérdés az, hogy ki is inspirál engem a mindennapi öltözködésben? Azt gondolnád, hogy senki nem ír erről egy egész bejegyzést, de hát ez nem olyan egyszerű. Nem egy ember stílusa inspirál, hanem több ember és más apró dolgok, amik állandóan csiszolják és finomítják az ízlésem.

De kezdjük először azzal, hogy hogyan találjuk meg a saját stílusunkat. Nehéz. Talán olyan nehéz, mint egy normális jól fizető állást találni.
Hogyan találd meg a stílusod? Itt egy lista, ami szerintem elengedhetetlen ahhoz, hogy megtaláld a stílusod vagy ráncba szedd a ruhatárad.


Legfontosabb dolog, ami tényleg minden előtt áll, az az, hogy megértsd milyen a testalkatod. Tudd, hogy mik az erősségeid és a gyengeségeid. Ha ezeket tudod sokkal könnyebb lesz a ruhavásárlás és az öltözködés is.


Ez egy másik nagyon fontos pont a listán. Hiába veszel meg egy tök csajos ruhát, ha te alapból inkább sportos vagy. Nem fog jól állni és te sem fogod jól érezni magad. Például ha sportos ruhákat hordasz, akkor felesleges több tíz magassarkút vásárolnod, mert nincs rá szükséged. Válassz inkább egy fekete és egy nude színű darabot, amit többféleképpen is tudsz variálni. 


Nem tagadom, Pinterest mániában szenvedek. Pár éve utáltam, de idén nagyon megkedveltem. Előtte a Weheartit alkalmazását kedveltem, de mostanra már nagyon nem jó. Sokáig nem is használtam csak a Tumblr-t, aztán Anyukámnál megláttam a Pinterestet és adtam neki még egy esélyt. Azóta mindenféle stílus inspirációs táblát nyitottam és mentegetem a szetteket, amik felkeltik a figyelmem. Szóval neked is ezt ajánlom, mentsd le azokat a street style fotókat, amik tetszenek.


Nagyon fontos, mielőtt nekiállnál a stílusod kialakításán vagy a ruhatárad átalakításán, hogy a megunt és felesleges darabokat válogasd ki. Ajándékozd őket rászorulóknak vagy add el őket a neten, a plusz pénzből tudsz új darabokat venni. De fontos, hogy alapdarabokkal töltsd meg elsősorban a gardróbod és csak ezután kezdj el a jelenlegi trendeknek megfelelő, extrább, feltünőbb darabokat venni.


Amit az előzző pontban is említettem már, a legfontosabb, hogy legyenek alapdarabok a szekrényedben. Hiszen vehetsz akármennyi divatos ruhát, ha nem lesz mivel párosítani őket, teljesen felesleges. Legtöbbször mikor nem tudunk mit felvenni és csak a szekrény előtt állunk tanácstalanul, akkor ez áll a háttérben. Szóval legyen egy alap ruhatárad, fekete, fehér, bézs, szürke és csíkos dolgokkal, farmerokkal aztán ha ezek megvannak, dobd fel őket mintákkal és színekkel.

+ még további dolgok, amiket fontosnak tartok:
az életed, mindennapjaid
okosan vásárolj (például, csak olyat vegyél meg amit 100% viselni fogsz és a te méreted, nem túl szűk, nem túl lezser. Általában a belefogyok dolgok, a szekrény mélyén fogják végezni és csak feleslegesen kidobod a pénzt)

Szóval én így alakítottam a stílusomon, de hát hazudnék ha azt mondanám most tökéletes és megtaláltam a stílusom. Amint már a bejegyzés elején is említettem, szeretek kísérletezni és mai napig ezt teszem. De vannak emberek akiknek a stílusát nagyon csípem és nagyban befolyásolták az ízlésem az elmúlt években, hónapokban és hetekben.

1.) Alexa Chung

Divatkirálynő. Mármint szerintem a nők 90% cserélne vele ruhatárat. Nagyon bírom, hogy ízléses és nem túlgondolt szettjei vannak. Nőies de valahogy mindig beépít egy kicsit férfiasabb darabot is a megjelenésébe.

2. Emma Watson

Megint. Egyszerű és nőies stílusa mindig ledöbbent. Nem túl sok de mégis természetes és divatos a megjelenése.

3. Tess Ward

A Harry Styles-al való állítólagos kapcsolata kapcsán hallottam róla először és egyből bekövettem Instagrammon mert nagyon megtetszett a stílusa. Nagyon örülök, hogy rátaláltam. Nemcsak azért, mert nagyon jó szakács és a recept ötletei nagyon ott vannak, hanem a stílusa miatt is. Nála is az tetszik, ahogy a nőies és a férfias darabokat párosítja, ráadásul a haja is irigylésre méltó.

+ Bloggerek, mint például Sophie a FashionSlave-ről, Megan a Meganellaby szerkesztője, Victoria az Inthefrow bloggere vagy Chiara Ferragni, de Danielle-et se felejtsük el a WeWoreWhat alapítóját. Danielle Peazer és nem tudom, hogy Eleanor Caldert még bloggernek nevezhetem-e, de az Ő stílusa is a kedvenceim közé tartozik.

További hírességek akiknek figyelemmel követem a ruhaválasztásait például, Selena Gomez, Kendall Jenner, Gigi Hadid, Bella Hadid, Lucy Hale és Ashley Benson és természetesen csomó modell szettje is szokott inspirálni.

I'm writing 3 different posts and I have many drafts but I still struggled to post today because I had so many ideas.. well then I settled with this one. I've been planning to write this one for ages. 
Truth is I struggled to find my style and I'm still experimenting with different trends and styles but now I have a basic wardrobe I quite like and I can build my outfits on.

Olyas valaki, aki divattervező és stylist szeretne lenni, annak a New York-i divathét kötelező. Tehát nem kérdés, hogy figyelemmel kísértem-e a kollekciókat. Talán egy kicsit késő már erről posztolnom és le vagyok maradva, hát legyen. De ha követtek Twitteren akkor tudjátok,hogy kicsit mozgalmasra sikeredett a múlt hetem és nem igazán volt időm a divathetekről írogatni. Szóval a New York-i divathét mint, mindig nagyon izgalmas és nagyszerű volt és remélem egyszer az első sorban ülhetek valamelyik kollekción. Addig is a Vogue Runway oldalon követem a show-kat, ami minden fashionista számára egy kötelező weboldal.

As someone who aspires to be a fashion designer and a stylist I always pay attention to fashion weeks. Maybe I'm a little late with this NYFW post but if you follow me on Twitter you'd seen that last week was quite hectic for me.
So New York Fashion Week was absolutely amazing and one day I hope to be sitting front row at one of the shows. Until I will just follow the shows through Vogue Runway which is a must-have site for every fashionista. 

Skipping breakfast is a huge NO. However, I was one of those people whose first proper meal was lunch and I couldn't be more ashamed than I already am but being 23 and considering myself an adult it was finally time to take care of my well-being. So welcome the new me who prepares breakfast the day before and wakes up earlier to actually finish it and eat it.

Instagram themes. Those accounts that have a perfectly photographed black and white or very bright clean pictures. Or have you seen pink vibes lately? Brown tones? Yes, it was all about Instagram themes in the past few months but is it still?!
To be honest, strict Instagram themes are on their way out but there are still slightly some things that remind us of themes. For example, using certain filters on your pictures. 
I bet you try to have a cohesive and well-planned Instagram. I gave up posting for a month if I remember it right. It's a tough thing because you see all those influencers with professional photographs while you're struggling to get 30 likes on your smartphone picture. Even if you know it was made by a professional and with a really expensive camera you, feel disappointed. I use the same two filters or at least I try to make my pictures look the same in tones but I don't sweat it if I can't post one day or the photo's not that great. Finally, I can say that I am very impressed with my Instagram and how my pictures complement each other because that's what I always wanted.

I am 23, soon to be 24 and way past the never ending question, What do you want to be when you grow up?!
I am an adult and at the age of 23 you're supposed to have your shit together. Like having a great relationship( which by the way I wrote my opinion about here), a degree and maybe a job. Or at least the sight that you're doing well and you know where you're heading at life. 

If you decide to start blogging you should think about whether you want to put your whole face out there or just a piece of it.
I read a few tweets about having a blog Instagram and a personal one and it inspired me to write this post. Personally, I couldn't handle two accounts it was too much for me.

Maybe hate is a strong word for this article but I don't mean it in a full negative way. I first started watching vlogs when I discovered Zoella and then I got totally addicted. Since then vlogs became the thing what everyone wants to do. Beauty gurus come and go but some things seem to stay.

As we are closer to our class reunion I thought I would take a look back at my years in high school. On the years when I'd dreamt about being in another country and perfectly planned my life. 5 years since I graduated, a lot of time has passed and I changed but not too much. 
Thinking back high school was pretty much boring for me. I had enough friends to be not picked by bullies but not enough to be one of the cool kids. 
Most of the time the cool kids are those who have wealthy parents, fortunately, I can't complain I live in a normal working class family which I'm proud of. So I am not sad I wasn't one of those but still I dreamt a lot about being uber cool. In some way that's how I found myself blogging in the early days of 2010 and being obsessed with Tumblr because I had some great feedback back there and it made me thought I mattered.

I've never done a post like this before but I reached so many of my goals in August that I thought it's time to make a place for this kind of posts. At the end of each month, I'll make a Highlights post and I'll talk about how and when I reached them and what really happened to me. Well, I made this blog in November or October last year but this spring I deleted all my previous posts because I wasn't really satisfied with them and made a re-brand. So I had around 6-7k views last fall but my views and following quickly started to drop because I skipped posting and eventually stopped blogging. Months passed and I found myself missing writing so I re-started in March. At the time I had around 400 to 500 views so I had to work really hard on promoting my blog to get back to my previous numbers. My April stats were quite low, 706 in the first month. Not quite bad but I wanted more. Unfortunately, my views in May dropped to half and I was devastated I thought about ending my blogging career but then I searched for ways to increase your traffic and engagement (Pinterest has amazing pins on this one) so I started scheduling tweets, posting to Facebook groups and I started posting more consistently. However, my posts weren't too good, they didn't have a meaning so the views I hoped for weren't coming. In June I finally wrote posts I loved and read over and over again, I joined Twitter chats and still to this day I schedule my tweets with Buffer every night for the next day. I finally tripled my views and since then each month is better than then the other was.

Tomorrow's September. Start of a new month, a new season. It's like a whole new beginning. Time to leave our loose clothes behind and start planning our warmer outfits. While the weather's still great, there is no need to wear our beloved chunky knits, but there's still a way to smuggle a bit of autumn into our everyday looks. So don't pack away your favourite summer pieces yet because with some tricks you can easily take your warm-weather clothes to fall.

Me, who's always been awkward at making contact with new people, decided to write a segment about our relationships in the era of social media.

I'm 23, an adult so it's kind of expected to have a boyfriend at this age. Whenever I see a long-lost friend of Mum I always, every time get the annoying question. Do you have a boyfriend? Oh, please... Sorry, but I'm busy dating myself. I'm busy making a career and being my best self. I don't have time for childish and unserious boys who don't know what the hell they want. I have enough of being in doubt, I have enough of being the stupid and naive one in a relationship. So no, I don't have a boyfriend and guess what, I'm proud and happy to be single.

Come on, it's 2017 why is it still an expectation for girls to have a relationship in their twenties?! Why we can't be happy without men? Of course, we can. Why is bad that we choose career over boyfriend? It's absolutely not. I rather be alone than in a toxic relationship.

I always felt embarrassed when they asked me if I was in a relationship or not. I felt weird and an outcast and sometimes I wondered is there something wrong with me? I mean I had my first relationship when I was 19 and I have to tell you there was a huge pressure on me. All my friends had their first boyfriends years before me and I really thought a lot that I'm not good enough, I'm ugly and just no one likes me. In reality, I am very picky... way too much. But now I'm 23 and I understand that we don't always need someone by our sides, romantically. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend does not define us.

How can you spend quality time alone?

Many think they need someone else to have a good time but I always say if you're truly comfortable with yourself and your life, you will find the peace and quietness calming rather than overwhelming.

Perks of dating yourself is you can start doing it right now. Turn on a great music and relax a little bit as easy as it is. Dating yourself I think is the best thing you can do to yourself.

As I mentioned I had my ups and downs before, I read many motivational, self-help books which I don't want to run them down but they are all the same just with different stories which seriously doesn't help us. I talk from experience, I read many books, I invested in self-help books a lot but at the end, it hasn't motivated me enough to start doing the right thing. I knew deep down that I needed a change but still reading all those things... they weren't enough motivation. So I'm telling you to spend time with yourself first. Invest in yourself rather than in books which just show you some path to follow or where to start but it won't have an effect as huge as a real life situation on you.
Dating yourself is a way to find your motivation and path in life. I found blogging which grew out to be one of my biggest passion and which I am truly proud of.

Also, I started cooking more seriously. Watch out for recipes in the future. It's a great way to relax at the end of the day and not to mention you can get to eat the result. I often experiment with special cuisines and I love to explore different tastes and substances.
If you're not good at cooking then just visit your favourite restaurant and have a nice evening. It's really not embarrassing eating alone, you get to visit places you want. You don't have to show attention to anyone. A movie night is another great way to spend time alone. I love to travel alone or just exploring the city's hidden parts. Sometimes it's such a shame no one can take cool photos of me but it's really amazing to find something on your own.

You can be whole in a relationship only when you're confident and in love with yourself. While you're single take the time and get to know yourself. Explore what you like and where you find happiness and when you find someone special it will be everything much easier.
You may think being alone s*cks I hope after this post you'll realise that being single has so many options I can't count. Of course, it can't replace the feeling when sometimes waits for you at home after work but it's definitely not the end of the world. It's just up to you if you see the single life as an adventure or not. It can be tough but also the happiest and memorable years of your life.

How do you cope with being single? What do you like to do alone?

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