How To Deal With Stress In Your 20s?!

I am 23, soon to be 24 and way past the never ending question, What do you want to be when you grow up?!
I am an adult and at the age of 23 you're supposed to have your shit together. Like having a great relationship( which by the way I wrote my opinion about here), a degree and maybe a job. Or at least the sight that you're doing well and you know where you're heading at life. 

Unfortunately, not all of us are like that. I'm an adult but I wasted my early 20s on stressing about stuff that I shouldn't have. It's more common than you would think and kind of sad how pressured we feel. Especially these days in the social media era where we firsthand see our friends failures and successes. Even if we don't want to be jealous but we can't help and feel slightly bitter whenever we see how good one of our friend's doing. Well, it just adds up to our huge stress like we haven't had enough already on our plate. 
I know. I changed courses, I had a gap year and I'm here with still no degree. I know how most of us feel and it's really nerve-wracking.

If you're like me and have huge dreams and goals in life which just a few people could earn you may found yourself not finding your place. I always dreamt how my life would be when I'm around 24... it was nothing like what I have right now. Don't misunderstand me, I am grateful for what I have because there are people out there who are struggling to live through day by day but even you have almost everything you can be sad if something important's missing. I don't really care about relationships anymore all I want is to call my passion my job. That's all I'm asking for. Fashion is my passion and arts. I would be so happy if I could have my own fashion brand and make trends with them like Chanel and Gucci.
But enough with my problems I gathered some stuff around which you shouldn't worry about and that is exactly what I am trying to do because your 20s should be the most adventurous years in your life. Experimenting with jobs, travelling and getting to know yourself, pushing your limits, yet most of us still waste it on stress

So what are the things you shouldn't worry about in your 20's?

  •  Mistakes and failures
Because none of us is perfect. We all make mistakes and it comes with life. So what you shouldn't stress about is making mistakes and failing because, after failure, it's success that comes. Don't forget.

  • The ONE
We don't need our blonde prince in shining armour... some of us lucky enough to have a high-school sweetheart but I think it's quite rare so if you can't find the one don't be sad. Here I am living the single life to its fullest and I had times when I craved for a relationship so bad that I ended up having really bad decisions and I lived in a toxic relationship.

  • Not being able to have your own space
You're not alone. The house prices are huge and it's not your fault if you can't buy one. Renting is a really great opportunity and you can meet new people who maybe can be one of your best mates.

  • Do things you want to do
We often find ourselves in the situation where we want to please our parents and we want them to be proud of us and do things that they would approve even if it slowly kills us. Never do something you don't want because you won't feel good.

  • Student debt
Well, I don't think I need to add any more to this. You'll pay it back don't worry it's not the end of the world.

and last

I did that. A lot. Believe it's not good. You'll lose all your motivation and you just push yourself further away from your goals and it's a load of work to get back on track with everything.

Do you stress about your future?! What do you think about this topic? Is it true that we stress too much in our 20s?! Let me know what you think.



  1. giiiirl, amen! your twenties are alllll about mistakes a failures - that's life, it's part of growing up!

    they always say comparison is the thief of joy don't they...definitely not worth wasting the funnest years of your life wishing you were someone else.

    loved this post, lady!

    katie. xx

  2. Great suggestions! I like your blog, would you like to follow each other?:)

  3. I definitely agree - so much pressure is put on us with needing a boyfriend. I've had family members asking when I'm getting a boyfriend for about 5 Years! I mean, I've dated but not really found a man I'd like to be in a relationship with. Your 20s are about exploring who you are, making mistakes and learning from them. All your points on here are so true! P.s. I love your blog ��

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  5. I'm only 18 but I can relate so a lot of the things you've talked about in this blog post. Maybe not all, but I still enjoyed reading it! I completed my first year of uni in 2017 but ended up switching courses this year. I really wish ZI had taken a gap year after high school, but parents told me it was a stupid idea and that I'd never want to go back (I regret listening to that advice). BUT at least now I know that I don't want to do what I thought I wanted to do. Friendships as well are quite hard. I think growing up moving around a lot has had an effect on that. I have no problem making friends, but it's almost like I'm scared to be too good friends with people because my past friendships have turned toxic.

    -Sophie xx
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